Oh potty training, the bane of my (current) existence. Not having control over the situation is not a fun thing. Trying to reason with a 2 year old who can't put her feelings into words is tough. Not being able to tell me WHY they don't want to go in the potty. So frustrating!
I have read and read about all different techniques, personal stories, articles, philosophies, etc, but my conclusion is this: Everyone has their dirty little potty training secrets. When first discussing, everything is glazed over into this perfect potty training story. This is when I feel like everyone else knows exactly what to do and I am a complete failure at this little game. Then the little things start to come out...well, they are totally potty trained...except for naps, night time, when we go out, etc. That is when I remember that we are all human, we all want to look like we have it together. Even when it is totally out of our control. I wish we could all just fess up to the trials and tribulations of our potty training adventures. As new moms, we put TONS of pressure on ourselves to do everything right, to be perfect, and by golly
we our children better hit all those milestones on-time. So if the kids aren't potty trained by xxx time, we fail.
So on that note - here is the start of our potty training:
We started about two weeks ago by telling the girls that soon we would be running out of diapers and when that happened, they would have to wear big girl panties.
Sidenote: They already have panties (so we didn't go out and buy more this time around) because we tried the switch from diapers a few months ago, but had tons of accidents and HUGE fits about sitting on the potty. So we stopped. Each day they would check the diaper supply and say, "more diapers", but last Sunday night we hid all the extra diapers that we had except for 2 that would be used that night. They are real big on knowing what is coming next, so I feel like this prep work was imperative for them.
Day 1 (Monday): Because of the meltdowns regarding being told to sit on the potty last time around, I started out by stressing "dry" panties instead of focusing on the potty so much. We set up a sticker chart with the following guidelines: Dry panties - 1 sticker, peeing in the potty - 2 stickers, pooping in the potty - 3 stickers. I set the kitchen timer for every 20 minutes and when the timer would go off, we would have a pantie check. Kristin's panties dry? Camryn's panties dry? Mommy's panties dry? Great! 1 sticker. Kristin cried some when put on the potty, but Camryn was a big helper and would get Kristin a tissue to blow her nose. They big moment of the day was Camryn peeing on the potty all by herself. The first day! Woohoo! Kristin kept wanting me or Walt to sit with her on the floor when she was on the potty. For nap time and bed time, we decided to go with "Dora panties" a.k.a. Easy Ups (Pampers version of Pull-ups). The girls quickly figured out that they could pee in these and started holding it until it was time to sleep.
Day 2 (Tuesday): Kristin continued rebelling against sitting on the potty, so I tried not to push her too much. Camryn just held it most of the day. Not much additional success today.
Day 3 (Wednesday): They are either holding it until nap time, or peeing on the floor. Not a real great day. Contemplate giving up. Frustrated that Camryn used the potty so easily the first day and now basically refuses to use the potty (and pees at nap time) or just pees on the floor.
Day 4 (Thursday): Decided to keep them in panties during their nap so they couldn't just hold it until sleep time, then pee in their Dora panties. Neither peed all morning, so I was convinced that they would pee as soon as they fell asleep. Nope. An hour and a half nap, no accidents. Kristin finally peed at 4pm and Camryn peed at 5pm.
Day 5 (Friday): 3 major accidents before nap time. I'm pretty done at this point.
Day 6 (Saturday): Several weeks ago we had planned to go to Six Flags for my sister's birthday, so we opt for diapers during this outing. It was really hot outside, so we were pushing fluids all day. Camryn was dry all day (I think a combination of holding it/dehydration, I didn't have to pee either and I had been drinking all day too). The break from potty training seemed to be a good thing for Cam, she peed in the potty once we got home! Kristin still having fuss fests when sitting on the potty. She has stamina though - she'll sit on the potty for over an hour without much problem. She just wants someone to sit next to her.
Day 7 (Sunday): The morning is not great, Kristin has a big poop accident (Thanks Walt for cleaning that one!), but about halfway through the day Kristin gets it. I mean she really gets it. She goes to the potty by herself...constantly. She is so excited to understand and be able to control things herself. She sits on the potty, then claps for herself when she pees. It is so cute! Overall Camryn seems a little worse today - especially since Kristin is getting so much praise. Camryn starts to poop in the bathtub, but Walt comes to the rescue with a mad dash to bring a small potty into the bathroom. She managed to poop a tiny bit in the potty, so that was a plus at the end of the day. I make sure to tell her several times that I know she can do it. I also say that it is her choice - she can choose to pee in the potty or pee on the floor. It is her choice. At bedtime I overhear Camryn telling Kristin, "Choice! Pee pee in potty, pee pee on floor. Choice" So she is listening and it is sinking in. I just don't want her to be scarred by this whole process.
Day 8 (Monday): Kristin totally has peeing down, but Camryn is not real happy about being forced to do something (like pee on command) so she just holds it. I decided to give her a "pull-up break", for both our sanity. She seems really stressed about it all. Told Cam that tomorrow she would be back in panties, but she was getting a break today. So Kristin proceeded to pee about 49 times all by herself (on the little potty and with help being lifted onto the big potty). No reminders for Kristin. Both dry for nap time too.
Now on with the adventure!